Coming to Terms With Sex and Sexuality

I am a sex fiend. I love sex and it is a large part of my life. I am an extremely sexual being and sex plays a major role in many things I do and many thoughts I have. It is not that I only think of sex, but sex and my sexuality play a major role in who I am, what I do, and what I enjoy. Sex is extremely important to me and I have come to terms with this fact.

I was raised to control my sexuality and to suppress it, but I have over the years decided that it is perefectly alright to control my sexuality, but to suppress it is harmful to me and very wrong. I do not believe I should suppress my sexuality, nor will I suppress it any longer where it is not harmful of myself or others.

Sex feels really good and it makes others feel really good. I am aware that some things which feel good can be wrong, but most things which feel good are right, and I think sex, the better part of the time, is one of those things which feels good and is right. I do not think anyone should suppress their sexuality or their sexual urges when they do no harm to them or to others.

I have a collection of pornography magazines and movies and books about sex and sexuality and I keep them hidden away, and I think that is messed up. Why should I have to hide my love for sex and my sexuality from others when it is a good thing and a right thing? Granted, it is not everyone's business, nor do I necessarily want it to be, but why should I feel the need to keep it all hidden away, and why does society teach that it should be hidden away?

Why do we display books that we read and movies that we watch openly in our homes, but we keep certain ones, particularly of the sexual variety, hidden away? Granted, some people and children should not see or read these things, but why do we not treat them as we do dangerous objects or tools? I wonder these things.

Certainly, it would make more for a conversational piece among most people if we openly displayed these things as well, without shame, and without care for what another finds sexually appealing or what another knows concerning such matters. Why do we, as adults, hide away such a major part of our lives?

I know why, yet I question as to whether or not is is right for us all or healthy for a society. Wouldn't we all be much happier if we could be more open about such and if others could catch a glimpse of such? Perhaps not if our families could, particularly of the religious or traditional kind, but among our friends or even many strangers? I wonder these things from time-to-time.

There is excitement in hidden things, but how much fulfillment can be gained from them? Is not fulfillment inter-relational? I think it is, and that is why I always insist on sharing my total and true sexuality with those I love and those whom I am sexually active with. But are we missing out on even more by not being more open around other adults? I wonder this.

Would not our sex lives be more fulfilling if others (perhaps friends, strangers, and certainly spouses) knew what things excite us sexually? Why is it shameful when there is nothing wrong with it?

Maybe I am just sick of the way society tries to hide every little thing and tries to control us all by isolating little pieces of ourselves from everyone else?

Peace,

Alraune

25 Famous Bisexual People

Sometimes one can feel more comfortable being their self if they are sure they are not alone in how they feel, act, and behave. I am bisexual, as are many individuals in this world, but it can often seem to be a lonely or confusing state – an inbetween state even. Here is a list of fifty bisexual people (12 men and 13 women) to make you more comfortable, as I am, in your sexuality and sexual identity:

1. Hans Christian Andersen (4/2/1805-8/4/1875) – writer
2. Billie Joe Armstrong (born 2/17/1972) – singer, Green Day
3. Drew Barrymore (born 2/22/1975) – actress
4. David Bowie (born 1/8/1947) – musician
5. Marlon Brando (4/3/1924-7/1/2004) – actor
6. William S. Burroughs (2/5/1914-8/2/1997) – writer
7. Margaret Cho (born 12/5/1968) – American Comedian
8. Joan Crawford (3/23/1904-5/10/1977) -actress
9. Aleister Crowley (10/12/1875-12/1/1947) – famous occultist
10. Sammy Davis, Jr. (12/8/1925-5/16/1990) – entertainer
11. James Dean (2/8/1931-9/30/1955) – American actor
12. Fergie (Stacy Ann Ferguson) (born 3/27/1975) – singer, Black-eyed Peas
13. Megan Fox (born 5/16/1986) – American actress
14. Lady Gaga (born 3/28/1986) – singer
15. Nathaniel Hawthorne (7/4/1804-5/19/1864) – writer
16. Katharine Hepburn (5/12/1907-6/29/2003) – American actress
17. Angelina Jolie (born 6/4/1975) – American actress
18. Janis Joplin (1/19/1943-10/4/1970) – singer, Big Brother and the Holding Company
19. Alfred Kinsey (6/23/1894-8/25/1956) – biologist and sexologist
20. Calvin Klein (born11/19/1942) – fashion designer
21. Lindsay Lohan (7/2/1986) – American actress
22. Freddie Mercury (9/5/1946-11/24/1991) – singer, Queen
23. Nicki Minaj (12/8/1983) – singer
24. P!nk (born 9/8/1979) – singer
25. Anna Nichole Smith (born 11/281967-2/8/2007) – actress

Being "bi" does not mean you are secretly homosexual or that you are somehow unable to choose your sexuality and sexual preference. It simply means that you prefer the company and companionship of both genders and that you are sexually attracted to both men and women. Most bisexuals prefer one gender more often than the other, but bisexuals such as myself, may also prefer both genders equally. How much one prefers one gender over the other may change over the course of the individual's lifetime, but that does not mean the individual is confused or in some sort of denial – it merely means that people change. Many bisexuals are in a constant state of flux, while others, such as myself, remain largely unchanged in their preferences.

For more information on bisexuality I suggest that you visit the Bisexual Center or go to bisexual.org, or you may find support through the LGBT.

Blessings,

Alraune